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Fabulous

I have a friend, let's call her Fabulous. She used to be married, just like me, to an ordinary man who was too ordinary for her ambitions. She also almost married another man, who was rich, well-known in our society and had a great career thanks to what else but a government contract or two.

Then, she found out that his marriage proposal did not include telling his then current wife about her. And she promptly dumped him. In her books, Number Two was okay, but it had to be official.

After all, she isn't even in her mid-thirties and has a successful career. She didn't need to depend on someone else to buy her expensive vacations or shoes, or even her apartment. She is attractive, smart and worldly, with a network of close friends that spans the better part of the globe.

This year, she has been in a long-distance relationship with an older man in his fifties who resides in another country and is CEO of several multi-national corporations. According to him, until he met her, his former wife thought he had ED.

I say his former wife because they live five minutes away from each other on account of their children, who reside with him. But he hasn't quite divorced her yet, apparently because of the impact it would have on his assets.

About three weeks ago, Fabulous had had enough. She had the all-dreaded "Talk" with him about their possible future. Or even if they had one. All she wanted to know from him was where this whole affair was going, and if it would ever go anywhere. Not today, not tomorrow or even next month, but ever.

He kept quiet.

She kept loving him.

Two weeks ago, she had a personal crisis.

He kept quiet until the last minute. Meanwhile, her friends, men and women alike, rallied round her, helping her do all the necessary things and take the extra-careful precautions to ensure she remained unharmed, body and mind.

Last weekend, she was in Bali and narrowly missed the bombs by 24 hours or 35 minutes, depending on which location you pick.

Last weekend, he left together with children and family, to spend a week at a spa.

When the bombs hit, they exchanges SMS-es.

This past week, she suddenly opened her eyes and said she could not go on. He SMS-es her back to say he agreed.

But he didn't call.

Not once, to say "I'm sorry, can we be friends?"

Or even to return her request to talk things over for closure.

When she asked him again, he said "I will call you tomorrow."

Needless to say, she was livid.

When a woman who has spent the good part of loving a man blindly begins to see again, her vision is as sharp as a knife. When a woman who has been deaf to anything else but a man's apparent love for her starts to hear again, she can pick up white noise a continent away.

When a woman stops loving a man, she keeps quiet. She stops fighting back. She doesn't nag. She doesn't even try to persuade you after a first attempt.

She just keeps quiet.

And she sends the ring you gave her to your wife/ex-wife, with a note to say "You should know what your husband has been up to."

Or she sends your wife an e-mail telling the latter all about her husband's conduct on his business trips.

Or, she sends your wife a package filled with all the little things that will matter - a sexy piece of lingerie here, receipts from dinners at restaurants the wife hasn't been to in years, a photo of the husband with a light in his eyes the wife no longer knows she misses, or the knowledge that the wife's husband is not impotent.

Some may say it is unjust, that the innocent wife becomes collateral damage. But perhaps it is poetic justice. At least, I say, the wife now knows what cloth her husband is really cut from.

And my Fabulous friend, can now move back into the world of technicolour.

The lesson in the story is this - if you are a man who loves a woman, beware when she keeps silent. Because then, she has awakened to the person you truly are.

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NOTE: That is so true!! But what if a husband just keep himself shut up for whatever the wife has done? Isn't it we all called 'dayus'? But what if the wife keep continuing 'merajuk', 'hempas2 barang', packing stuff and run away with the kids? What should the hubby do? Should all the blame be on the hubby? or to the big-headed-wife who thinks her hubby will follow and listen to her merajuk, tantrums, anger and narrow-minded thinking?? SIGH.. Husbands and Wives out there should communicate more... In a better way i mean.

Tahun Melawat Malaysia 2007: Selamat Datang ke Terengganu

Tahun baru 2007 datang lagi. mengiringi kedatangan hari raya haji. Bersempena tahun ini juga datangnya tahun melawat Malaysia (TMM).
Baru-baru ini saya melawat ke Muzium Negeri Kuala Terengganu. Saje je la, sempena TMM ni, bayaran dia murah je RM 2.00 untuk org dewasa, dan tiket tu boleh dijadikan poskad. Memang seronok juga muzium negeri ni, yang terbesar di Malaysia. Binaannya bentuk rumah Melayu lama. cantik dan landskap pun sgt2 menarik.

Bahan pameran di dalam muzium adalah seperti Batu Bersurat, artifak2 lama, kitab2 tua, tulisan jawi kuno, khazanah diraja, istiadat perkahwinan melayu dan pertabalan diraja dan juga pakaian tradisi melayu. ada juga dipamerkan senjata2 lama.

Di kawasan luar muzium terdapat tongkang, atau kapal lama. kita boleh naik dan lompat2 atas tu, tapi tak boleh masuk ke dalam. kawasan sekeliling muzium tu memanglah sgt luas. tepi sungai pulak tu. letih kaki saya nak berjalan keliling, tambah pulak saya tgh sakit pinggang.

Kalau datang ke negeri Terengganu tapi tak datang muzium ni, org kata bagaikan pegi ke Makkah tak singgah Madinah la (walaupun, golongan pak wahab kata tak wajib pegi, tapi tunjukkanlah kecintaan pada Nabi yg bawak agama ISLAM ni dgn pegi melawat makam dia kan?). Tapi saya dok tertanya2 jugak la, apa yg best dengan muzium ni? Promosi pun takde, signboard ke pintu utama pun tak jelas. Fasa renovation masih berjalan. Kenapa lambat sgt sedangkan kita mmg nak sambut pelawat2 tahun ni? Awat tak bersedia sejak tahun lepas? Sayang betul!!

Berikut ada beberapa komen saya nak bagi ttg muzium Terengganu ni:
1. Papan Tanda
papan tanda dalam kawasan muzium ni tak jelas. pelawat asik merayau2 tanpa ada tanda arah yang jelas ke mana depa patut pergi. tak diterangkan dengan baik kawasan2 yang ada di sekitar. Memang ada plan kawasan, tapi patutnya ada tulisan yang menjelaskan kelebihan2 kalo pegi melawat ke situ. Pintu masuk utama pun susah nak dicari.

2. bahan pameran
Bahan pameran dalam muzium terengganu lebih kurang macam kat muzium negara. apa yg membezakan cuma lebih bersifat kenegerian. saya sebagai pelawat yg bukan org terengganu teringin nak tgk bahan pameran yang lebih menonjol, selain barang kemas diRaja. bosan sangat. Saya paling suka ke bahagian pameran alat senjata melayu lama. tapi rasanya lagi best kalo diterangkan cara2 penggunaan alat2 tu. Baru thrill sket. saya paling kagum dengan parang muncung yu. teringat pulak dicovery channel. tak sangka di terngganu pun ada yu kapak macam tu.

3. Kemudahan asas
Pada hari saya pegi tu, kafe tak dibuka, jadi saya terfikir jugak, macam mana kalu pelawat rasa dahaga?? paling-paling pun buka je kiosk kecil jual mineral water atau minuman n jajan. Jual kepok lekor ke kat situ. Laku jugak kot dalam RM20-30 satu hari.
Paling saya sedih adalah surau yang ada di situ. Tak ada penanda arah yang jelas tentang surau itu. Saya main agak2 je. Nasib baik betul. Bahagian wuduk bagi lelaki oklah di luar, tapi bagi wanita tidak bertutup!! Nampaklah aurat pada pengunjung yang lalu lalang. Tandas pula tiada lampu, gelap betul, kotor dan tak dicuci agaknya setahun kot!! Terpaksa dikongsi dengan lelaki pulak tu. Tak terfikir ke depa ni?? Perempuan pon wajib solat kecuali datang bulan tau!! Masuk je kat dalam surau tu, astaghfirullah!! Tahik kucing, sejadah bau kencing kucing, sampah sarap. U name it, and u got it!! Nasib baik saya mmg sentiasa bawak telekung dan sejadah kecik. Sepanjang solat saya tahan nafas dan cepat2 keluar. tak sempat nak berdoa.
Public phone pun tak ada, mana tahu pelawat nak panggil teksi ke?? ingat semua orang ada henpon ke??
Oleh sebab saya tahan nak buang air, saya dah tak tahan nak mencari toilet. Nasib baik ada ternampak toilet dalam muzium. Boleh tak buat public toilet kat luar muzium? Takkan nak kena bayar RM2.00 baru boleh buang air kat toilet dalam muzium? Jenuh la. Bayangkan kalau tak tahan nak membuang tapi kena beratur beli tiket? Kan kes naya terbocor kat situ?

4. Souvenier/ Cenderahati
mula2 tu ada la ingat nak beli cenderahati buat anak2 sedara, mak aih harga dia mahal betul. keychain ciput tu harga sampai rm3. tu belum yang lain2, last2 tak jadi.

5. Design
macam yang saya cakap mula2 tadi, bangunan muzium mmg cantik, tapi sayang la, kat dalam dia banyak ruang kosong yang tak dipenuhi dgn bahan pameran. Lepas tu byk pulak kawan yang perlu renovate. ait?? tak sedar ke dah Tahun melawat malaysia?? Nampaknya mmg jenis suka wat keja last minit ni. pencahayaan dalam tu pun agak dull. saya rasa elok la kalo yang bahagian pameran istiadat pengantin tu cahaya dia dicerahkan, bhgian barang2 kemas pulak, letak cahaya lebih terang bagi memancar sinar emas tu. Alalahai, kat bahagian istiadat pertabalan pulak, letak display board macam pertandingan melukis kanak2 je. tak cantik langsung. Geram saya, macam tak meriah plak nampak istiadat pertabalan sultan. Tak best pun, sedangkan tu acara gilang gemilang kan??

6. Landscape/ Lanskap
Part ni saya puji. Memang cantik, dengan tumbuh-tumbuhan hijau, ikan2 dalam kolam kat bawah rumah muzium tu. Subhanallah.. Cantik sangat. Kat air terjun tu nampak real sangat, tapi (ada jugak tapi =) hehehe) banyak sangat lumut la dalam kolam tu. boleh tak cuci kolam tu?? beruslah sikit batu2 tepi tu. tak nak buat meh upah saya buat. saya pun mmg tgh cari side income ni, heheheh... sayang betul saya tak ada kamera (tgh sengkek) kalo tak, rasa mcm nak je bergambar kat luar tu puas2... cantik sgt...

Kesimpulannya, saya rasa kerajaan Terengganu patut preserved la jaga la kecantikan dan keindahan muzium ni. dan tambahkan lagi daya tarikan nya. Duit byk2 buat masjid kristal buat apa?? ada orang nak solat kat situ?? Kawan saya cerita, anak dia tanya, "ayah, tu apa benda?" ayah dia jawab, "masjid kristal." anak tanya lagi, " pasal apa buat masjid kat situ ayah?? Tak de orang pon? ada ke org saja2 nak pegi solat kat situ ayah?" Ayah terkedu.

Muzium menyimpan khazanah dan tinggalan sejarah kita yang tak ternilai, tapi muzium terengganu dilayan seolah tak bernilai. Masjid kristal dipuja dibelai.
Pantun melayu lama:
Melayu itu,
Musafir lalu, nasi ditanakkan, suami di rumah mati tak makan,
kera di hutan disusukan, anak di buaian mati kelaparan.

SELAMAT DATANG KE TERENGGANU!!

P/S:kalau terasa hati mintak maaf ye, itu tanda kebenaran terjentik =)